Weight Loss Surgery Help

Sexuality Following Weight Loss Surgery:

Janis has asked me to post some thoughts about sex. I was wondering how long it would take for this subject to come up and am glad it has finally surfaced.

The changes in sexuality following significant weight loss are absolutely profound. I will take a few minutes tonight to try and address this most important topic.

First, there is perhaps no other area where the changes in body image are more strongly felt than in your feelings of sexuality. As your body changes and the weight drops it is not at all unusual to feel a rebirth of your feelings of sexuality that may have been hibernating for some time. This renewed sexual energy can be a powerful source of energy, motivation, and wonder.

As you begin to feel more sexual you may look at your body in ways long forgotten and awaken feelings long suppressed. This is a wonderful time to begin reacquainting yourself with your sexuality.

You will notice members of the opposite sex looking at you differently and maybe you find yourself becoming flirtatious and projecting your inner beauty like you haven't in a long time. On the positive side this can be a powerful reawakening in a relationship. For some relationships this wonderful transformation can be threatening to a partner signaling time for more communication and reassurance.

As the weight drops it is normal to feel more sexual and sensuous. Sexual activity becomes something you may look forward to rather than shy away from as you may have pounds ago. You may find that your body becomes more responsive to your lover's touch.

For women you may find your desire to dress in ways that enhance your sexuality. Lingerie may once again become something you begin to try on and experiment with as your body changes and your confidence increases. This is the time to experiment and take risks as you keep in mind how much men are visually stimulated. Rewarding yourself with appealing lingerie can be much more rewarding than those extra calories. Now is the time for you to rejoice in your emerging sexual confidence and express yourself.

Even the act of sex will change as your body goes through the transformation. You will rediscover sexual positions long forgotten. You will rediscover feelings of how your body feels against your lover as your shape changes. Your energy level will increase and bring new life to your sexuality.

There are many wonderful changes that occur in a person's sexual life as their body changes that are to be embraced and celebrated. It is important to keep in mind that all of these positive changes can be at times overwhelming for your lover and an adjustment taking some time.

If your partner is prone to insecurity (jealousy) this can even be a source of confusing conflict. Keep in mind that your body is changing  and his or hers may not be changing. Members of the opposite sex may pay more attention to you while your partner experiences no such change.

Embracing these changes in your sexuality can greatly help you make the necessary changes in your body image. You have and continue to work very hard at changing your body and your life. The  positive changes in your sexuality are just one of the rewards of weight loss. Embrace and playfully experiment with the new sexual you to fully embrace the new emerging you.